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Most people who struggle with perfectionism will tell you they just have high standards. But what makes perfectionism different from excellence is not the height of the bar. It's what falling short of that bar feels like: a catastrophic threat on one's self-worth. That distinction matters, because it points to where the problem actually lies: and it's not in the standards themselves. #perfection #highstandards Why Perfectionism Happens In CBT (cognitive-behavioural therapy),

One of the stranger things about loneliness is that you can be surrounded by people: a full household, an active social life, colleagues who seem to like you, and yet still feel a particular kind of aloneness that none of that presence touches. If loneliness were simply a lack of social contact, filling the contact should fill the gap. But it often doesn't, because loneliness lives somewhere deeper than that. #alone #loneliness Why Loneliness Persists What makes loneliness pe